13 Apr Changing Nutrition Is Not Easy For Everyone! – A RANT
This blog is kind of a rant. It is a rant against being self-righteous. We need to pull back because here are some of the things we say to others and most
importantly to ourselves:
“You just need to cut down on the portions!”
“You are so lazy, just get up and work out!”
“Just quit drinking soda!”
“Why is that person so overweight?”
To a person with anxiety: “Just relax!”
These are just some of the things we say to ourselves, about others, or to others. Here is a newsflash. Do you really think that they/we don’t know that already? If it was that easy for us to do just that, I am pretty sure we/you/they would have done it already.
Life is more complicated
What comes easy to one of us, might be much more difficult to someone else. Our own personal experiences, fears, addictions, passions, believes enable us in different ways to cope with life. Sometimes food is one of those coping mechanisms. Whenever that is the case [which quite honestly, is quite common] we need to understand that millions of people in the USA have the same problems.
Compensating with food
Sometimes we need time to be alone with ourselves. We are so used to headsets, music, videos, books, anything that drowns out our little inner voice. Sometimes it is important to feel the pain, feelings, etc, that we associate with with wanting to compensate with food. We need to experience it with compassion knowing that we are not alone with it.
Life does not go in a linear way. It never has and never will.
We need to understand that our coping mechanisms have evolved over decades. If we want to change them it will take love, compassion, hard work and the willingness to fail, just to try it again. We will have road blocks, there will be tough times when we lose a job, a partner or simply when we have a fight, or a bad day at work. We don’t succeed every day all day long, nobody does! It has nothing to do with willpower but with forming a habit. Nobody has enough willpower. We simply form habits which takes time. Time during which we may fail, again and again. Just don’t quit.
My Call To Action
This is my call to action: Whenever you see someone who obviously, or not so openly struggles bring them the benefit of the doubt. You don’t know what that person has going on in their life. If it is you, then call to mind the things that you have had to deal with in your life. Meet yourself with compassion and give yourself a “reset button” after you fail.
Just hit the reset button and restart the computer called “LIFE”. Start again and move on.
We cannot change anything in our past. But we can reshape the future, slowly. It takes time for new habits to form, new ways of life.
Judging is normal
You might think now: “What the heck?” He jus told me to be less judgemental. Well, good luck with it. Just like anything else it is a habit. We have learnt it over decades. You cannot just “not be judgemental” anymore. Just acknowledge when you are doing it, smile and move on, knowing what you are doing and work towards acceptance.
“Do” in japanese means way, ergo Karate-Do, means the way of Karate. It basically tells you that this is a journey. You won’t just get to the finish line and be able to yell: “Heck, I made it!” It is always work in progress.
Yours in health & fitness,
Head Trainer Shape Up Fitness & Wellness Consulting